How to Deal With a Loss?

Yesterday I have listened to a very interesting podcast

(On Purose by Jay Shetty, Episode with Lili Reinhart, You can Listen to the Full Episode under this link: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6VpqrPBjaoqsmpw53KqzMP?si=9ce288150c704987 ).

Plenty of topics touched but what I would like to focus on is this question:

How do you deal with a loss when a person you have lost didn’t die?

It cought my attention because of my personal experiences. We live in a sosiety which doesn’t really prepare us for any type of loss. We tend to believe that whenever somebody is leaving our life it’s an ethernal loss, unchangable and crucial. We tend to fear the moment when this can happen (personally I have a huge fear of abandonment which started in my childchood). The question is WHY nobody teaches us how to deal with all the emotions when somebody is leaving?

There are also very different ways of leaving, the variety of departures is growing with each year, especially nowadays when you can basically ghost someone from one day to another. Plenty of times we don’t understand the reasons, the purpose nor the emptiness it all leaves inside of our hearts.

So maybe instead of focusing the empty spot the departure left behind we could try to open our minds a little bit, look on the situation from the higher ground and consider all the possibilities.

The Spirituality suggests that even when we die it is just a passage for our soul to a higher dimention, if we are all an energy, connected to one another, comming to the body to experience emotions, feel our senses for the short amount of time and learn a lesson that we have chosen to learn to ascend to a higher soul level. If this would be true we wouldn’t have to fear loss as there wouldn’t be any comming nor leaving, just being and exsisting, right here in this very moment and time would be irrelevan’t.

What I have learned recently, or acknowledged actually, is that through the years people where comming and going, and most of the times I had absolutely no idea how to overcome the pain it left me with. The time healed the wounds but memories remained. For my surprise some of the friends, partners or even clients where coming back, resurfacing after a long while but my persective and point of the view of the situation, our reltions, have changed already. It would be almost like the lesson learned gives you a peace inside. But it’s always, ALWAYS dependable on MY perception, acknoledgement and growth. It feels like no one is actually going anywhere if it is not the time for me to let them go. It is ME who MUST BE READY, either I am aware of that fact or not. The timing is always right for the higher self. If I have learned from it, and truly loved the lesson this particular human being was suppose to teach me, the Universe is able to move things around on my behalf. And that human being stays deeply inside, as a part of my heart and soul forever.

Shifting the perspective , changing my mindset and looking for answers – This is My way of dealing with a Loss.

Hopefully this might help You as well My Friend.